When You’re the Boss… But You’re Also the One Who’s Struggling to Show Up

There’s something nobody tells you when you become your own boss.

It’s not the taxes.
It’s not the systems.
It’s not the risk.

It’s the silence.

The silence when no one’s clapping. The silence when the leads aren’t coming. The silence when you’re working harder than anyone knows, and yet the results feel thin and scattered.

And in that silence, you’re expected to be the leader.
The decision-maker.
The visionary.
The motivator.
The accountant.
The closer.
The one who somehow figures it all out.

But how do you motivate yourself… when you feel like you’re running on fumes?

How do you hold yourself accountable… when no one else is watching?

How do you show up… when showing up feels like lifting a thousand pounds?

Let me speak into that moment, because I know it well.

You Don’t Need to Feel It to Do It

I know the world preaches passion. It tells you to “follow your heart” and “do what you love.”
But here’s what I’ve learned after working with real estate investors across the country:

The most successful people don’t always feel like doing the work. They just do it anyway.

Discipline is louder than emotion.
Courage is louder than fatigue.
And faith, real faith, is often forged when you act before the feelings catch up.

Don’t Wait for the Spark. Strike the Flint.

You are not broken because you’re tired.
You are not weak because you’re unsure.
You are not a failure because you feel stuck today.

You are in the same trench every real builder walks through.

And here’s the good news: the flame still lives in you.
It may feel small.
It may feel buried.
But it is there, like a coal under the ash, just waiting for one more breath of effort.

Sometimes that breath looks like calling five leads you don’t want to call. Sometimes it looks like rewatching a training video you’ve already seen. Sometimes it looks like praying, or walking, or just washing your face and getting in the car.

You don’t need to conquer the world today.
But you do need to strike the flint.
One small spark.
One forward motion.

That is how wildfires begin.

You Are Not Alone. You Are Not Unseen.

Maybe you’ve never had someone cheer you on. Maybe you’ve lived your whole life proving people wrong instead of hearing someone tell you they believe in you.

Let me be the one to say it clearly. I believe in you.

Not because I know every detail of your story. But because I know what kind of person it takes to step into this business.
You could have stayed comfortable.
You could have kept blaming.
You could have bowed to fear.

But instead, you stepped into uncertainty with faith and grit.

That matters. And even if no one else says it today, I will: Well done. You are doing better than you think.

Let’s Get Back in the Fight

Today, you don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to be fast. You don’t even need to be confident.

You just need to be faithful.

Make the call.
Read the deal.
Follow up on the text.
Show up for the thing you’ve been avoiding.

Your next breakthrough may be sitting just on the other side of that uncomfortable step.

And if you’re thinking, “But what if it doesn’t work?”

Then I want you to hear this, as your coach and your friend:
You are not being measured by the outcome.
You are being strengthened by the obedience.

Faithfulness is always worth it.
Keep going.